Are You a Holiday Hater?
You’re not alone. Unless you want to be.
Let me explain
If you don’t have friends or family around you for the holidays and you’re missing your loved ones that are gone, you may need a strategy. You may have to give yourself a stern talking-to.
The Tool of Distraction
What do you do if you have a toddler crying out of control, you try to distract the toddler into something that brings them back into the moment, “Hey look at this over here, little Johnny.”
This is a good technique for yourself at any age!
You have two paths to choose:
I’m so alone and I miss my spouse, mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, son, daughter, cousin, best friend, neighbor, etc.
- Life is terrible
- Holidays suck
- Everything is awful
- Nobody thinks about me or cares about me
Make the best of it
I’m still alive and I am going to make the best of it. The best way to feel happy is to do something for someone or something else. I’m going to:
- Write a letter a day until the end of the year telling people how important they are to me.
- Volunteer at a nursing home
- Start an indoor herb garden
- Walk dogs in the local animal shelter
- Offer to help at a homeless shelter
- Turn on a funny movie or go to a comedy show
- Ask someone that lives alone if they want to spend time with me
This article is NOT meant to minimize sadness and depression
This is meant to be a reminder that there are tools for coping during the holidays. AND you are important in this world. Please read this article to remind yourself about how important you. And, readers enjoyed this article written by a mental health counselor last year.
Don’t stay home and weep
Bring yourself back into the present moment and don’t waste the NOW.
Please use tools to remind yourself of your value and focus on OTHERS so YOU will be happy.
Would you like to share your thoughts in the comment box below?
Can you share how you go out of your way to do something for someone ELSE during the holidays?
Do you have a story to tell?