Some say that all parents damage their children
Mitch Albom wrote in his book, The Five People You Meet in Heaven, “All parents damage their children. It cannot be helped. Youth, like pristine glass, absorbs the prints of its handlers. Some parents smudge, others crack, a few shatter childhoods completely into jagged little pieces, beyond repair.”
Many adults are living with regrets about their parenting but regrets are wasted energy. Regrets don’t fix anything and they keep you living in the past. If you are forward-thinking, you may be able to make amends, apologize, and move forward with a better relationship with your children (at any age).
Another perspective on “damage”
Even your “damage” can end up serving your children well in the long run.
A 62-year-old author recently spoke about his adversarial relationship with his father. He said his father was rough on him, verbally abusive, and told him he was nothing, that he never would be more than nothing.
Nonetheless, the author declared he wouldn’t have wanted another father.
Because his determination to prove his father wrong helped him find his true contributions to this world. And indeed, this man was successful and happy!
In our world of polarity, good often arises out of negative events. Sometimes you just have to take the time to honestly consider the positive. This doesn’t mean you make excuses for errors but you can excuse yourself for not knowing better at that time.
The reality of having children
The reality is that children are born to parents that must be young enough to bear children.
Ironically, wisdom generally comes through the experiences of life as people are getting older. Knowing that, you may more easily accept that you did the best you could at the time.
Move forward and make good things happen NOW!
Share your thoughts in the comment box below…
Do you think it’s true that “all parents damage their children?”
Have you made peace with your own parents’ damage to you?
If you are harboring guilt and regrets about your own parenting, can you have a conversation with your adult children to make amends before any more time goes by?
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This post was updated from August 21, 2018.