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Bullying and Our Human Need for Respect

Posted on October 22, 2018September 13, 2019 by Kathryn Eyring

Edited and reposted 8/3/19

My friend was anxious about an upcoming meeting with a bully.

This person had bullied and intimidated her in the past, using callous insults and interruptions during their conversation.

Bullying is Common at All Ages

Bullying is rampant in our world but we have a human NEED for respect. We NEED to maintain our self-respect and feel validated or we could fall to depths of sadness or depression with feelings of low self-worth.

Learn How to Counter a Bully

Thankfully, we can learn how to counter bullies. A behavioral health counselor provided my friend with a F.A.S.T. worksheet to help in her next communication with the bully and it’s worthy of sharing!

Remember F.A.S.T.

Marsha Linehan created Guidelines for Self-Respect Effectiveness: Keeping Respect for Yourself (FAST).

A way to remember these skills is to remember the word FAST.

F: Be Fair to YOURSELF and to the OTHER person. Remember to VALIDATE YOUR OWN feelings and wishes, as well as the other person’s.

A: No Apologies. Don’t over apologize. No apologizing for being alive or making a request at all. No apologies for having an opinion, for disagreeing. No LOOKING ASHAMED, with eyes and head down or with body slumped. No invalidating the valid.

S:  Stick to Values. Stick to YOUR OWN values. Don’t sell out your values or integrity for reasons that aren’t VERY important. Be clear on what you believe is the moral or valued way of thinking and acting, and “stick to your guns.”

T: Be Truthful. Don’t lie. Don’t act helpless when you are not. Don’t exaggerate or make up excuses.

Help with Bullying at Any Age

Wouldn’t the world be a better place if we were taught relationship tools when we were children in school? Damion Fontaine and Scott Brotherton from Frank & Dean and Then Some had great ideas for teaching the value of respect in schools when they were interviewed.

Jeff Ellis teaches martial arts to overcome the effects of bullying. His story is inspiring, also.

With so many stories of bullying in the news, learn FAST to handle bullies!

Questions for the brave at heart:

Have you ever had a time you felt bullied? If yes, can you talk about it? How did you personally recover?

Or is it that you never really have recovered, and the thought of a bully brings back anger or frustration and grief?

Do you think you could admit it if YOU were the one who was the bully at one moment in your life? Maybe we’re not all that innocent?

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6 thoughts on “Bullying and Our Human Need for Respect”

  1. Melba Asberry says:
    August 3, 2019 at 6:25 pm

    Another good article. It is unfortunate that we need such coping skills. There have been bullies, pretty much, as long as there have been people. It is sad that some of us think the way to feel good about ourselves is to feel superior to someone else, as though finding things to disdain in others makes our own short-comings less so . . . that is how I see bullies; persons who are unhappy and who take it out on whomever they think they can.

    1. Kathryn Eyring says:
      August 6, 2019 at 5:46 pm

      True that there have always been bullies. Now there are even more opportunities for them. And I agree that they are probably taking out their unhappiness on others, even though they may not realize that they’re doing so.

  2. Bob wicktora says:
    October 27, 2018 at 3:51 pm

    I have, on occasion, been made to feel
    inferior by someone else. But maybe that
    person needs to bolster his image by doing so. Don’t react to his claim. Remain
    calm and eventually he will see that he
    has not hurt you and will change the subject

    1. Kathryn Eyring says:
      October 27, 2018 at 5:46 pm

      Yes, I agree. Sometimes, you have to wonder if a bully is hiding his own low self-esteem!

  3. A.Seltzer says:
    October 27, 2018 at 1:36 pm

    I see intimidation/bullying of seniors by their adult children and by assisted and memory unit staff.
    Many people ate are unaware that the county has Adult Protective Services, where an anonymous complaint may be lodged.
    All senior centers should have literature on the process of protecting oneself from bullying.

    1. Kathryn Eyring says:
      October 27, 2018 at 5:45 pm

      That’s so sad. These people need others to advocate for them, for sure.

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